Note: Master has encouraged me to write my opinion, and ask for yours, about the following situation.

Have a friend named Brad. Brad is a Dom. As a matter of fact, he introduced me to the bdsm lifestyle. I have written about him here before, but, so that you don’t have to read through a hundred of pages of post to find it, I will review our history.

Brad played with me (bondage and sex) even though he had a girlfriend. I quickly became emotionally attached. He, on the other hand, would say things like “I know where my priorities are,” meaning not with me. Ouch. We stopped seeing each other. Eventually he met Pam. He left his girlfriend for Pam, who became his slave/wife.

That has been a few years ago. Brad is now my friend. We talk online. I recently went to his house and he fixed some bikes for me. Although he has admitted he would like a bondage buddy, he has also said he knows that’s not what I want or need. If he tried to convince me to join in play, I would refuse. I have been badly hurt by him in the past. I would not set myself up for such pain again.

His slave barely talks to me. The few times we have been together she says no more than she has to. When I came to her home she didn’t even come outside. She sees me as competition, although I don’t want her husband, certainly not on his terms. I don’t want to be just someone’s toy. And as far as having him for a husband, well, I would have major problems knowing he was looking at/for others.

Master has a problem with all of this. In order for this friendship to continue, he wants Brad to talk to him. As Master, that is his right, and I have no problem with that. Brad is another Dom, and we do have a history. Master is caring for and protecting me, as he should. To not go through my Master shows a lack of respect.

I have also talked on here about how a slave’s behavior reflects back on her Master. Master Bennet has made it clear that I am to be respectful of others. Even if I disagree, especially if I disagree, I am to be respectful and proper at all times. Has Pam been respectful of me? How does that reflect back on her Master, Brad? Should he take some sort of action?

I will, of course, follow my Master’s wishes. As Master he has that right, and given the history it is understandable. If Brad wishes to continue our friendship, he needs to talk to my Master and accept his conditions, which would be something like online only, friendship only. Will Brad do that? It’s up to him. As they say, the ball is in his court.

Both Master and I would welcome your thoughts/opinions about this situation.

I am a Harry Potter fan, and I am eagerly awaiting the arrival of the final book. I went to the new Harry Potter movie Friday night. I thought they did a pretty good job with the movie, considering the fact that they had to condense several hundred pages into a 2 and ½ hour movie.

But as I sat in the dark theater, my mind often drifted to Master Bennet. Master is interested in movies and likes to review them. Master Bennet is a man of opinions and he likes to share his. I wondered what he would think of the movie. I like the movie to be true to the book. The closer the movie is to the “original”, the better. I suspect Master has other criteria for judging a movie.

I also sat in the theater, feeling him against my arm. Movies are known as places for lovers, and for that reason I also felt Master there. I longed to reach out and hold his hand, lean against him as I watched. And Master was there, next to me, sharing with me.

My youngest son, M, is in 4H. The county fair is fast approaching, and I seem to be standing over him, making sure he completes his projects for the fair. Somehow, that doesn’t seem right.

I used to love the fair. Without any prodding or even encouragement from my parents, I would prepare my projects and exhibit them. Now, I feel like a teacher standing over a recalcitrant student, making sure his work is completed. This isn’t what 4H is about.

Actually, I feel like a parent. I want my son to do well and be successful. I have to fight the urge to do his projects for him. I have to let him do it HIS way. I heard in a neighboring county, they don’t let the parents at the table when the kids are judged because the parents would answer more questions than the kids. Apparently, I’m not the only one who wants to do it for them.

I ask myself, What Would Bennet Do? I want my son to succeed, but Master Bennet would say that they are his projects to succeed or fail at, not mine. He would tell me to step back. Let M do his own projects and let the chips fall where they may.

But how far back is far enough? In a sense I have put some deadlines on him. Projects must be completed before he goes to camp next week. I have made suggestions for what he should do. Some of my suggestions he has taken, some he has not. I attempted not to push too hard. I did my stint in 4H already.

WWBD? Take a step back, SOB. Let him do his work. Let him enjoy the fruits of his labors, learn from his mistakes. Let him have his time

I like surprises. I love to get things I didn’t expect. Master, however, hates surprises. Sometimes this is difficult for me, as I like to give as well are receive them. However, I will respect Master’s wishes in this matter. I will clear things with him, especially if they involve him.

For instance, yesterday I sent him a package. Now, remember, Master doesn’t like surprises, so I am not revealing anything here that he doesn’t already know. I tend to collect things for him until I have a nice little boxful, and then I send it to him. This package included a couple of baseball caps, a shirt, some buttons I made especially for Master, and several items with a superhero on them. Master knows which one.

I suspect one reason Master doesn’t like surprises is that if he knows about something ahead of time and doesn’t like it, he can stop it. Once when Master was having health problems I wanted to arrange for his friends here to send him cards. I thought it was a great idea. It even sounded like a wonderful surprise. But I knew better than to surprise him. And when I discussed it with him, he said no. He didn’t want everyone to make a fuss about his illness.

So, Master, I will continue to clear things through you, and I hope that you enjoy the box of “unsurprises” that I sent.

I rode my bicycle yesterday. As I got it out, I realized that I don’t think I have ridden for maybe ten years. That’s a long time. I didn’t think I would forget, but I knew I would be shaky.

After filling up the tires, I got on and took off. I was amazed at how we remember to keep our balance, despite years without practice. Although I was a bit shaky and turning was strange, I managed okay. I rode out to the cemetery, a ride of probably ½ mile or so. I was surprised at how my legs ached, even for such a seemingly short ride. Like most kids in a small town, I used to ride my bike everywhere. And right now I walk 50 minutes a day, on the order of my Master.

As I rode back I wondered, What Would Bennet Do? Or, What Would Bennet Want Me To Do? I felt safe in thinking that Master would want me to continue riding. I hadn’t spent a lot on the bike; nevertheless, it seemed silly not to use it. I just needed a plan.

So what’s the plan? First, I will continue to walk 50 minutes a day. The bicycle riding will be in addition, at least for now, because I don’t think I will be able to ride for long periods of time. Second, I will ride my bike to places in town. If I want to go to the library, I’ll ride my bike. The school? The post office? I will use the bike instead of walk. And, finally, I will ride a set number of minutes on my bike daily. Tomorrow I will time myself and figure out how many minutes a day would be appropriate. Then I will start to increase that amount of time.

This should be good for my health, and help me to improve my riding skills. Eventually, when the weather is good, anyway, I can make biking part of my 50 minutes of activity a day.