Master sent me the following:

Happiness is finding the one you love. The journey is long and filled with bumps. But knowing you found her is thrilling. You know words can not describe how you feel. Sometimes a person is slow to admiting it, but when you know it in your heart ..it is wonderful

I have told him several times that I think it is lovely. It accurately describes how I feel about are relationship. I would, however, substitute the word “joy” for “happiness”. I think that this relationship brings a peaceful, steady joy to my life. I think of happiness in terms of being more fleeting, like the feeling of your team winning a ball game. Yes, you are happy, for a while. But the feeling that goes with finding the one you love is much beyond that. It leaves you with a sense of completeness.

Words do fall short of describing the situation. I am so lucky, indeed.

The bdsm lifestyle I live is not about sex. I suppose I should say that for some in the “lifestyle” it is purely a sexual thing. They are only out to have exciting encounters. They neither seek nor find a lasting relationship in the bdsm world. To each his own, I guess.

But this is not bdsm to me. To me it is not about sex. It is about control, dominance/submission, and intimacy.

Both partners have to exhibit control. The Dom controls. He must control both himself and his charge. A Dom must control his urges, wants and needs. Yes, he must. Since the Dom is responsible for both himself and his sub, he must do what’s best for them both. A sub must also exhibit control. She must bring her will in line with that of her Master. It can take a lot of self-control to submit! The Dom must lead, and the sub must follow, or submit. This is at the heart of bD/sm.

All of this, when done well, leads to an incredible intimacy. Dom and sub must know each other well, and strive to continue to know each other deeper and deeper. A Dom cannot do what’s best for his sub unless he knows her. A sub cannot submit to a Master’s will unless she knows that will. And sometimes, both Dom and sub will be required to act outside the presence of the other. Each must know the other well enough to know what to do.

No, it’s not about sex. At the heart, real bdsm is about love.

I have received another message from Sir BB.

“I have requests multiple times for address and yahoo ID of bennet, and you have refused. Then you do a public bashing. bennet then chimes in making untrue statements. I have and still want his address. I do not have it so I cannot contact him, playing this one sided game of his just shows his true colors. you have my permission to give him my email address and no one else. I must be specific as you will post it to all. I have nothing to prove to you or bennet. He will take whatever I say and put his spin on it. I cannot win either way. I read his comments and he insults me, you do nothing but agree. Oh by the way, I am not this bystander he speaks of but I'm sure he has you confinced otherwise. Again bennet can contact me as I DON'T HAVE HIS E-MAIL ADDRESS!!!!!! and you won't give it to me.


Great post! I hope i hear from BB. It will never happen, he has not done it for almost 3 years |< << >> >|


by Master Bennet (PM , CC ) on Thursday September 6, 2007 @ 6:48 PM

Comments:
i would assume SIR BEBE would reply, I would assume the bystander might as well on this written post. Yet, i see these two (maybe the same person) is afraid to step up and give his/their honest opinions on this subject topic. Maybe Sir BEBE sub P should reply, she always seemed more intelligent than he ever was

again slave, BEAUTIFUL WRITTEN POST..YOU DO MAKE ME PROUD ON YOUR OBSERVATIONS

MB”

The things Sir BB quotes are comments from Master Bennet on my blog.

Now for my comment:

As I said before, I do not wish to be the middleman for this. Since this Dom apparently doesn’t have an ID here on the stream, I have sent him another way to contact Master Bennet.

I am sorry he felt “bashed” by my remarks, but this blog is, like any others, simply my perceptions. As “Give ‘em hell Harry Truman said, “I never gave anyone hell. I just told them the truth and they thought it was hell.”

I also take no responsibility for Master Bennet’s comments. He may write what he wishes here. That is something this Dom needs to take up with Master Bennet himself.

And he now has a way to do so.

I first came to the blogstream looking for a place to chronicle the life of my Master and I. On occasion, I do wander around, just to see who else resides here. One of the things I do is to check the “recently updated” blogs, as I prefer active blogs. I hate it when I get interested in a blog and the person stops writing.

Anyway, I have perused the active blogs here. What have I seen? There are many blogs that deal with religion. I have seen many with a Christian bent. Some question whether specific denominations are truly Christian. Others simply describe the author’s Christian beliefs and experiences.

I have found it interesting that there are several with a wiccan bent. I do not know much about the pagan religions, but there seem to be several blogs that deal with witches and covens and the like. I did not know there were so many who identify themselves with these religions. As Master considers himself pagan, I am curious about the beliefs involved. There is much about Paganism that I do not know.

There are also blogs that are very sexual in nature. Some are simply erotic stories. Others are non-fiction, or at least they are presented as being true. (On the internet, it is difficult to tell.) Some are about lifestyles. I have seen at least one blog on swinging (exchanging partners).

I’m not sure that this blog could be called sexual. Although it is true that I sometimes talk about sex, in my opinion, that is not what bdsm is about. There are several other blogs about bdsm here on the stream. Many of them, like this one, are not constantly focused on sex.

There are many other subjects on the stream. Looking at the blogs most recently updated, I see sports, humor, art, adoption and more. And, of course, there are many, many blogs that function as interactive diaries, with people talking about their everyday lives, and readers commenting.

I have been enjoying the stream. I hope you are, too. Thanks for reading!

I recently received this from Sir BB, who read about himself in this blog:
This was taking from your blog

"I shall call him Sir BB. Sir BB hovers on the periphery, waiting to swoop down if he assumes he is needed. He still wishes to control, but doesn’t want to be too obvious. He wants to appear at the right time, save the day, and be a hero. If he assumes Master Bennet isn’t living up to his standards, he points out that he is there for me. Like the parent of a college student, he does not want to let go."

I have let go, why can't you? Still I see my name still in your blog. Bennet has not giving any email or nick name either. I have him all figured you. Shame you don't. Do me a big favor and keep any reference of me out of your blog and muzzle bennet, his comments are not needed as he has no clue of what he writes.


Peace

There are a couple of issues I would like to address here. First of all, this Dom has asked me to refrain from contacting him, so I do not respond to his emails. I respond here. I guess if he does not want me to do that, perhaps he should not contact me. It is hoped that someday these posts may be put together for a book. Don’t worry, I will not print anyone’s complete name or address, but experiences? Oh, yes, they would certainly be part of any printed addition.

Second, I would like to apologize to Sir BB. Perhaps I should have described his actions in the PAST tense, as this is what he used to do. My Master has asked that he not talk with me without Master Bennet’s permission. This Sir BB refuses to do.

Third, the post that Sir BB objects to was simply about Doms that I have known. He is simply among them. I cannot guarantee he will not show up in the future. I will say that I won’t go out of my way to make Sir BB a target.

Now, as to the muzzle my Master comment, that is simply absurd. Anyone in the lifestyle knows that. A slave NEVER muzzles or CONTROLS her Master. I would not presume to do so. If Sir BB doesn’t like the comments made by Master Bennet, may I suggest he take that up with him. Master Bennet can be reached via the PM function on this blog. I do not wish to be Sir BB’s go-between. He can speak to Master directly.